“This is Not Legal Advice” with Leigh Daniel and Allison Sara Reiner present “Owning Your Sexuality”

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“This is Not Legal Advice” with Leigh Daniel and Allison Sara Reiner have a special guest today, visionary Caroline Palmy

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This is Not Legal Advice with Leigh Daniel and Allison Sara Reiner today feature Fiona Robertson. Today’s show is is on Body Confidence, before/during/after a divorce

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Hosts Leigh Daniel and Allison Reiner interview personal chef Wendy Otwell.

A health crisis led to Wendy divorcing her husband and she has lots of great advice for those who find themselves in relationships that are not healthy.

Some great tidbits from Wendy are:

* You already know if a situation is good for you or not

* “There’s only so much fixing you can do before it’s not your problem anymore and it becomes part of your life.”

* “If you are in a bad situation, you are playing Russian roulette with your health.’

* Health problems come from the stress that we are under

* It’s common for people not to want to talk about health crises

* Your parasympathetic nervous system can get defaulted to on and can no longer turn itself off without your help

* It is very common for the partner to take on the victim role when the spouse is facing a health issue

* There are many methods to finding health including medical advice, yoga, meditation, exercise, juicing, detoxing your mind and body, and affirmations

* “If you don’t listen to signs from the Universe, they’re going to start throwing coconuts at your head.”

* Do little positive things for yourself.  Surround yourself with positive people.

* Ask yourself how you want to live your life and what can you do NOW to achieve that.

Today Wendy concentrates on a healthy lifestyle and helps others who are trying to incorporate healthy eating into their life by teaching them cooking methods with plant based foods.

You can contact Wendy at :  WendySigle@gmail.com

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Today your host on “This is Not Legal Advice” Leigh Daniel is accompanied by her cohost Allison Reiner

Allison says that when we find ourselves in a relationship with a narcissist we:

1).  Believe that we can change them

2).  They draw us into the drama of the situation

We believe that all of it is in our head.  Empathetic, softer, more open hearted people fall for the narcissist and it can be one of the most difficult relationships to leave.  They make you think that you are the one who is in the wrong.  For example, they can make you believe that it is your fault that they cheated on you!!  One way to deal with not enough or too much sex in the relationship is by open communication.

The narcissist will never take responsibility for their own behavior.  They will pass responsibility for all problems over to the empathic partner.

One of the best defenses against a narcissist is good boundaries.  Know yourself and be aware of certain triggers and characteristics that exemplify a narcissist.

When in conflict with a narcissist, be neutral with short responses when questioned.   Answer questions without making emotional responses.  To stay engaged, make a list of all of the horrible things the narcissist has done because the empathic partner will tend to forget and is more likely to suffer longer.

Look at all of the things that brought you into the relationship so that you can look for those positive things in future relationships.  But beware!!  If it sounds too good to be true, it could possibly be so.  Be careful of love bombing, where narcissists give you an exorbitant amount of love and adoration.

Also know that sometimes the narcissist is charming to everyone else.  Listen to your instincts.  The truth of who they are will always come out.  At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what others think but what is right for you.  You need to trust yourself.

Often we forget who we are.  We need to get back to find out who we are.  Often this takes a life coach or a counselor.

If you can, leave the narcissist as much as possible.  Find ways to communicate that keep emotions our of the way as much as possible, even if you have to communicate through a third party.

Look at the experience as an opportunity to help others.  Remember, don’t feel guilty,  The narcissist will do anything they can to win you over.

For help contact Allison at http://www.AllisonReiner.com

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What do you do if someone in a relationship really hurts you?  If you feel like your entire world has been destroyed, what should you do?

How do you get back at someone and teach them a lesson they will never forget.  Does the act of revenge hurt you more than it hurts them?  Perhaps the best revenge is to live a successful life.

Leigh Daniel and Allison Reiner discuss these and many other topics on today’s show.

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