What if your partner is a narcissist?

Relationship Health

January can be one of the busiest months for relationship counseling and for divorce attorneys.

Many people realize after the beginning of their relationship that their partner is narcissistic in nature.  What are the signs and what can you do?

Today Leigh Daniel and Allison Reiner discuss narcissism.  They explain that with narcissism:

* We get taken under the spell of a narcissistic partner and then begin to question ourselves

* The narcissistic partner has a huge ego and must always maintain control

* Once the narcissistic behavior begins, it never goes away

* We have a desire to have the narcissistic partner to admit to their behavior

Learn about techniques and tips to help with dealing with a narcissistic partner.

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When Your Body is Talking

Relationship Health

Hosts Leigh Daniel and Allison Reiner interview personal chef Wendy Otwell.

A health crisis led to Wendy divorcing her husband and she has lots of great advice for those who find themselves in relationships that are not healthy.

Some great tidbits from Wendy are:

* You already know if a situation is good for you or not

* “There’s only so much fixing you can do before it’s not your problem anymore and it becomes part of your life.”

* “If you are in a bad situation, you are playing Russian roulette with your health.’

* Health problems come from the stress that we are under

* It’s common for people not to want to talk about health crises

* Your parasympathetic nervous system can get defaulted to on and can no longer turn itself off without your help

* It is very common for the partner to take on the victim role when the spouse is facing a health issue

* There are many methods to finding health including medical advice, yoga, meditation, exercise, juicing, detoxing your mind and body, and affirmations

* “If you don’t listen to signs from the Universe, they’re going to start throwing coconuts at your head.”

* Do little positive things for yourself.  Surround yourself with positive people.

* Ask yourself how you want to live your life and what can you do NOW to achieve that.

Today Wendy concentrates on a healthy lifestyle and helps others who are trying to incorporate healthy eating into their life by teaching them cooking methods with plant based foods.

You can contact Wendy at :  WendySigle@gmail.com

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How to Leave that Narcissist

Relationship Health

Today your host on “This is Not Legal Advice” Leigh Daniel is accompanied by her cohost Allison Reiner

Allison says that when we find ourselves in a relationship with a narcissist we:

1).  Believe that we can change them

2).  They draw us into the drama of the situation

We believe that all of it is in our head.  Empathetic, softer, more open hearted people fall for the narcissist and it can be one of the most difficult relationships to leave.  They make you think that you are the one who is in the wrong.  For example, they can make you believe that it is your fault that they cheated on you!!  One way to deal with not enough or too much sex in the relationship is by open communication.

The narcissist will never take responsibility for their own behavior.  They will pass responsibility for all problems over to the empathic partner.

One of the best defenses against a narcissist is good boundaries.  Know yourself and be aware of certain triggers and characteristics that exemplify a narcissist.

When in conflict with a narcissist, be neutral with short responses when questioned.   Answer questions without making emotional responses.  To stay engaged, make a list of all of the horrible things the narcissist has done because the empathic partner will tend to forget and is more likely to suffer longer.

Look at all of the things that brought you into the relationship so that you can look for those positive things in future relationships.  But beware!!  If it sounds too good to be true, it could possibly be so.  Be careful of love bombing, where narcissists give you an exorbitant amount of love and adoration.

Also know that sometimes the narcissist is charming to everyone else.  Listen to your instincts.  The truth of who they are will always come out.  At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what others think but what is right for you.  You need to trust yourself.

Often we forget who we are.  We need to get back to find out who we are.  Often this takes a life coach or a counselor.

If you can, leave the narcissist as much as possible.  Find ways to communicate that keep emotions our of the way as much as possible, even if you have to communicate through a third party.

Look at the experience as an opportunity to help others.  Remember, don’t feel guilty,  The narcissist will do anything they can to win you over.

For help contact Allison at http://www.AllisonReiner.com

 

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Mindset after Divorce

Life after divorce,

Today Leigh Daniel speaks with Simona Ksoll, Mindset Mentor and Business Strategist.

Simona helps women with the next chapter of their lives and to be able to follow their calling.  She says first you must process your emotions and grieve.   Then you can start looking at who you are and begin to put the pieces back together again.

She teaches women how to ask, “What do I want to do?  What excites me?”  You have to be happy first on the inside in order to help your family and others.

Through neuroscience, Simona is able to help us look at how we have been programmed to look at the yeah buts when we start thinking of change.  She asks you to explore what you would need to believe in order to make your dreams come true.  This helps you to become a bigger version of yourself.

As you begin to reprogram your mind to be aligned with what you say you want, fear comes up.  Fear dissipates as you step into what you know you need to do.  When fear does come up, ask what is true about this fear.  Factually there is now evidence for the fear because nothing you are fearful of has happened yet.

We are comfortable with the familiar, even if we know it isn’t working for us.  Ultimately everything happens for you.  There is always a gift if you are willing to look for it.

Connect with Simona at http://www.SimonaKsolls.com

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Revenge

Relationship Health

What do you do if someone in a relationship really hurts you?  If you feel like your entire world has been destroyed, what should you do?

How do you get back at someone and teach them a lesson they will never forget.  Does the act of revenge hurt you more than it hurts them?  Perhaps the best revenge is to live a successful life.

Leigh Daniel and Allison Reiner discuss these and many other topics on today’s show.

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Adultery

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One of the most devastating situations in a relationship is when one of the partners cheats and goes outside of the relationship for companionship.

How would you react if you knew that your partner was guilty of adultery?

Leigh Daniel and Allison Reiner discuss these and many other topics on today’s show.

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How to stay sane during the pandemic

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There are numerous stresses on today’s relationships.

With the current worldwide Corona virus there is even more pressure on couples as our lives have been completely rearranged during the pandemic lockdown.

How do you maintain your sanity and perhaps even strengthen the bond you have with your partner in these trying times?

Leigh Daniel and Allison Reiner discuss these and many other topics on today’s show

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